So beautiful and moving.
when the grey clouds
descend until they
ghost the tops
of buildings and trees,
does the river whisper
in all seriousness,
“my cousin has come
to visit me?”
and when the rains
begin to fall
does the lake ask
why her sister is weeping?
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written in response to two prompts today. At dVerse, the prompt is to write a quadrille (poem of 44 words), including the word “ghost” (this prompt goes live at 3pm ET). At the Daily Post, the prompt word is “seriousness”
I received the following from Brian today:
Nan,
Was your site hit by the recent hack, you disappeared from my Reader. I had to re-follow you. Please make a back up of all your posts, they are to valuable to be messed with.
-Brian
Thanks, I’ll ask folks. -Nan
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Davis speaks of survivors who feel ashamed of their sexual feelings. Many times “survivors feel their bodies betrayed them when they were children: they responded sexually to abuse. This is one of the deepest pockets of shame many survivors carry” (Davis, 1991, 203).
More devastating than the inability to ward off the abuser is the perception that one cannot trust oneself. In my case it was an accurate perception. My body follows me through life; my father does not. (p. 200)
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From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi
The Monkey Wrench Effect is a way of looking at the damage of incest, based on the child victim’s developmental stage when first molested. It is as though a monkey wrench had been thrown into the child’s developmental machinery, interfering with the learning tasks of that and later stages. (191)
Girls first molested before the age of nine are affected differently than those who are first molested after the age of nine, as measured by the Rorschach inkblot procedure and reported by Zivney, Nash, and Hulsey (1988, 99). This is a remarkable finding. Age of victimization, then, can affect the way they see the world–or at least inkblots they have to make sense out of. Based on the responses, girls first abused after the age of nine appeared to be angrier, and those in the younger group more depressed and needy.
From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi
“Sexual abuse experiences, particularly at the hands of close relatives, almost invariably disrupt the developmental sequences that characterize normal psychosexual maturation. Once these experiences occur, they are reclaimed as body memories even if (in some cases) details of the abuse are unavailable to the victim’s conscious memory (Maddock and Larson, 1995)
Eroticizing – The most insidious, lingering and destructive effect of the incest was its impact on my developing sexuality. I suspect that this is true for other survivors.
According to Finkelhor (1986, 181) traumatic sexualization refers to “a process in which a child’s sexuality (including both sexual feelings and sexual attitudes) is shaped in a developmentally inappropriate and interpersonally dysfunctional fashion as a result of the sexual abuse.” Experiences in which the offender makes an effort to evoke a sexual response from the child, for example, would be more sexualizing than those in which an offender simply uses a passive child to masturbate with (182).
From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi
The first part of Brian’s experience is on his site.
Under 2:00 Part 2
In my shock, I dreaded what my Dad was going to say. My only job was to protect my twin sister, his favorite. I couldn’t even protect myself. He was going to hate me when he found out.
But no one ever said a word. Nothing. Not even yelling at me for being so pathetic. I dreaded and waited and nothing. Dread was my punishment.
My parent’s silence was how they screamed Shame. I started hearing it leak out in comments, nothing direct, never direct. Soon everything was a backhanded stab. I filled in the clarifier at the end of sentences that they never said out loud. Praises were tainted, I knew they meant to add “…for a sissy”. No matter what words they used, what they wanted to say was “weakling”, “pussy”. They hated me so much they couldn’t even stomach a whisper. It…
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Inspiring.
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.
Like Solomon, who wrote these words, I find soul satisfaction in beautiful speech. As a writer, I search for delicious words to be framed in serendipitous syntax. I hope to pick ripe thoughts, artfully arrange them in woven-word baskets and serve a taste of lingual delights. I admire skilled poets and appreciate how different poetic brushstrokes reveal textured perspectives; unique angles on life’s truth. Flighty images of the mind settle to roost in solid words. Sentinel ideas on signposts outline silent spaces for contemplation. Hand-in-hand, we meander world with senses alert to the wild call of hurricane winds or the fresh whisper of gentle breezes, then collectively record richly scripted delicacies for our hungry souls to feast on.
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POLITICAL ANGST*
I don’t like to be angry,
I don’t like to be sad.
But those damn congressmen
are making me mad.
What pricks with little dicks
can’t stand the word vagina?
(This may be an alternate truth) from Nicholas Kristof 9-2- 2017: NY Times Op-Ed page
Some people stand up to President Trump in the courts, others in street protests. And the poets among us, they battle President Trump with an arsenal of verse….
Susan McLean, a poet and English professor at Southwest Minnesota State University:
Trump seethes at what the writers say.
He’ll pull the plug on the N.E.A.
The joke’s on him. Art doesn’t pay.
We write our satires anyway.
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