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On My Bookshelf — verse

Published February 20, 2017 by Nan Mykel

ON MY BOOKSHELF….

On my bookshelf you can see

My inner self revealed to thee.

Maybe Hen’s Teeth and Horse’s Toes

Won’t go far to  show you me,

but Frames of Mind should give a hint

of where my time is largely spent.

Crack in the Cosmic Egg is from

my college days of yore– an alum

who still values Games People Play

and Alan Watts any old day.

User Illusion blew my mind

also Denial of Death in its kind,

and I  include for brilliance

the author of Consilience.

Sheldon Kopp told me what to do

if Buddha I should run into,

while The Dream and the Underworld

gave me frights; my sanity a whirl.

And here’s an old one we all knew

none other than Miss Nancy Drew.

So now you know me stem to stern.

What can I expect from you

in turn?

 

What Dating My Visually Impaired Boyfriend Taught Me

Published February 19, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Heart to heart writing–I can feel the love. I am re-blogging also.

“There’s just nothing we can do” – Re-Blog

Published February 19, 2017 by Nan Mykel

You are a sterling example of inspired willpower. Thank you! I’m re-blogging this.

SECRETS KEPT SECRET? re trump

Published February 19, 2017 by Nan Mykel

….There is more consequential IC pushback happening, too. Our spies have never liked Trump’s lackadaisical attitude toward the President’s Daily Brief, the most sensitive of all IC documents, which the new commander-in-chief has received haphazardly. The president has frequently blown off the PDB altogether, tasking Flynn with condensing it into a one-page summary with no more than nine bullet-points. Some in the IC are relieved by this, but there are pervasive concerns that the president simply isn’t paying attention to intelligence.

In light of this, and out of worries about the White House’s ability to keep secrets, some of our spy agencies have begun withholding intelligence from the Oval Office. Why risk your most sensitive information if the president may ignore it anyway? A senior National Security Agency official explained that NSA was systematically holding back some of the “good stuff” from the White House, in an unprecedented move. For decades, NSA has prepared special reports for the president’s eyes only, containing enormously sensitive intelligence. In the last three weeks, however, NSA has ceased doing this, fearing Trump and his staff cannot keep their best SIGINT secrets.

If the PDB was being boiled down by Flynn — before he was asked to resign as National Security Advisor for lying to the Vice President — to a single page with no more than 9 bullet points, the President really isn’t getting all the information anyway and the CIA Directory denying the “withhold” is practically meaningless when it’s the NSA holding sensitive information back, not neccesarily CIA.  But then again all of that is a perfect example of Trump lack of comprehension and understanding.

So despite including the denials, CBS still finished with….

The reality is, insiders say, that there has been a “chill” in the information flow. Intelligence sources say the agency is intent on protecting information, and if there are concerns it could be compromised, it will be withheld.

The ongoing investigation into whether Trump associates coordinated with the Russians remains a concern for some who handle sensitive data. It can be inferred that there is a lack of trust, and because the CIA has had a role in uncovering signs of Russian cyber intrusions, there are also concerns that sensitive information could be shared with adversaries….

GETTING TO OKAY

Published February 15, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi

Bass and Davis (1994, 179) quote a woman:

Finally, I had to realize it was a part of me. It’s not something I can get rid of. The way I work with it will change,  but I think it will always be there. And I think I have to get to the point where I love it, because then it’s really loving me wholly. If I’m really going to love myself totally, then I had to love all of me, and this is part of who I am.

An important part of Recovery centers around taking responsibility for protecting and soothing yourself. Right now, look around your life and check that you are physically, emotionally and interpersonally safe. If you are not safe, problem-solve. Where does the danger lie and what can you do about it? Then do it. Remember, denial is the bugaboo. Safety concerns might include birth control, protection from STDS, abuse of substances, illegal activities such as shoplifting and DUI’s, an unsafe living arrangement, acquaintances who have a toxic effect on you, impulsive behaviors–yours and theirs–frequenting unsafe places, etc. Many survivors find themselves in relationships which do not seem abusive because of their past. Ask yourself if you are being respected, listened to, and free of emotional and physical abuse. (Emotional abuse includes being called derogatory names). We were all trapped in the incest, earlier. for which we were not responsible. We are responsible now if we allow ourselves to be further abused in any way. (241)

ROLE OF THE MOTHER

Published February 13, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Chapter 21 – From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi

In cases of continuing incest by the father, to what extent is the mother aware?  Is there a subconscious knowledge?  Conscious awareness, even complicity? (p 214).

I thought little about my mother’s possible role in the incest until many years later.  When she was living in a nearby retirement community. An older man befriended her–his wife was in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s.  My mother arranged for her friend and me to go out somewhere together. I think this embarrassed both of us, and I don’t think it ever actually happened. I wondered then, however, about the dynamics of her machinations. Had she also tried to hang onto my father by using me? (Mykel, 220).

“During therapy, intense feelings of  unresolved anger and grief at the mother  usually emerge and tend to consume much more therapeutic time than feelings about the incestual perpetrator.” (Meiselman 1978, 159)

I had no idea how typical my anger at Mother was until writing this book. The reader may want to reflect on this observation, also.

We long to be able to love her and to see ourselves loved in her eyes. We long to be known, to be seen in our deepest selves and liked for who we are by this woman who is our earthly origin and most often our primary caretaker. (Carlson, 1989, xi)

SO SAD

Published February 13, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Jeffrey Sandusky, the son of convicted sex abuser and former Penn State assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky, has been arrested on felony and misdemeanor child sexual abuse charges, according to court documents from the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania.

The younger Sandusky, 41, faces 14 counts, including sexual assault of a child older than 11, sexual assault of a child less than 16, and a variety of other sexual abuse and child pornography charges.

(CNN News)

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