WAR OF THE SEXES

Evolutionarily speaking, human nature seems to be approaching the boiling point.  Just a few decades ago the movies portrayed glamor pusses with leading men whispering uncertainly “No,” and then melting into their arms.  Anyone old enough to recall this?

Now spoken words can get a man or woman fired.  I heard one of Rump’s sons say into a microphone from a podium, “If women can’t take it at work they should stay home.”

Will the #Me Too movement really change things or backfire?  I would have “Me Too”-ed if I’d understood how to do it.

Headlines above the Ohio anti-choice bill article read “Forced Motherhood.”

There was no headline “Forced Fatherhood.”

Our president has been revealed to enjoy using his prestige to fondle strange women, uninvited.

Incest survivors are haunted by the memory that their body responded when they knew it shouldn’t.

Some female sex workers enjoy the power they have over men.

The news reported that a man charged some women of raping him.

David DeSteno and Piercarlo Valdesolo, psychologists and authors of Out of Character: Surprising Truths About the Liar, Cheat, Sinner (and Saint) Lurking in All of Us (2011, 69) , reported on an experiment in which ovulating women  in a lab were asked to smell a number of men’s  unwashed t-shirts and asked which man’s scent they preferred.  “We know, it sounds a bit strange, but believe it or not , the ovulating women overwhelmingly preferred the smell of men who had more symmetrical features [and therefore were more genetically fit]. (R. Thornhill and S. Gangstad,  Human Nature 4 (1993) 237-69.

The mind is loaded with mechanisms meant to ensure that  our genes are passed on, and the urge to have sex with an attractive (and thus genetically fit) stranger is one of them.” lbld, 68

Work by Mattie Haselton at UCLA  indicated that when ovulating, even relatively demure women will dress more sexily…ibid, 70

There is a new movement of men called “Incel,” in which men who are unattractive to women commiserate sadly and angrily, even aggressively:  “Incels are members of an online subculture who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom. Self-identified incels are mostly white, male, and heterosexual.” Wikipedia

What’s one to make of all this?  I don’t think it’s a harmless Lysistrada, especially with the current “might makes right” philosophy afoot.

 

About Nan Mykel

I used to think I would be a child prodigy, but then I got old. Formerly I had fantasies of rubbing elbows with cultural and academic leaders but that did not come to pass because I did not become a cultural or academic leader or any other kind of leader, for that matter. I am not even an "Alpha Dog," a term learned from a friend who had to become "Alpha Dog" in order to influence her own pet. (When gazes lock, she never looks away.) For years I expected to become a published author, but in passing I could not avoid the fact that I had little to contribute to the world's bulging dumpsters. I'm embarrassed to report that I also considered my primary process artistic productions powerful, rather than mildly neurotic. Which is not to say that I disrespect myself, only that I am beginning to doubt my potential for making a mark on the world. If I focus on strict self discipline I may be able to keep my garbage removed on a weekly basis, to keep the kitty box changed, the clothes cleaned, the dog watered, fed and walked, but that just catches me up to the starting mark again. When writing I physically grapple with words, wrestling them from their indifference into attempted chunks of awareness. I sit heavily on my chair; I breathe in artificially cooled air; my ear drums note the tap tap of the keyboard and the steady uninterrupted sound of the air conditioner, What is that sound? The roar of the ocean from 30 yards away...Inside, my thoughts are are balls in an electronic game machine, bouncing hither and yon from lever to lever. I am a little grim and intent until I recall a dream related by a black man in the prison where I once worked. He said that when he was a small boy, back home, he dreamed he was standing on his front porch pissing, and that he suddenly found himself pissing stars...
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2 Responses to WAR OF THE SEXES

  1. lynn__ says:

    Hard to “LIKE” the war of the sexes but a vital topic to discuss. I think abortion “rights” to kill a fetus already conceived is part of the problem…men don’t have to be responsible, children are devalued (more abuse), women are damaged and denied the potential joy of motherhood.

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  2. Nan Mykel says:

    Many thanks for your cautious feedback.

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