Our grandparents live
only in our memories. When we go,
Why care if we’re forgot?
As if we never were?
I speak of myself, now:
Why do I care if I am forgot?
As if I never was, never
strove to overcome my limitations,
only partly successful, yearning yet afraid?
If truth be told, my heart is rusted
My children and grandchildren
know this. Perhaps
being forgot is not
so bad after all.
Nan, Common Threads, 2012
Thank you, Saa…
Marion, Georgia, and mother Cora. Fun exploring old records.
When making a will, should the “estate” be shared equally despite the differing levels of economic status? Some say divide equally, don’t play God. People make their own choices and lifestyles and it’s not up to a parent to attempt to rectify a lack of education, circumstances, etc. If I love them all equally, why not “share the wealth” equally? I use quote marks above because my “estate” is miniscule, but I’m really in a quandary. I suggested to my wealthiest child that I should not share equally and got a highly negative response from this child and the spouse. I want justice but not for any child to feel slighted.
OPINIONS RECEIVED: This is a biggie. My mother considered the same thing. I told her I would be terribly hurt if she did so. It is hard to explain why I felt so strongly that somehow it would mean she loved me less, though intellectually I could tell myself it wasn’t true. Equal inheritance will spare your children these doubts. It is a much secondary consideration, but those who have less need will probably look out more carefully for the others and will be more inclined to leave what they accumulate to their nieces and nephews. (cousin)