When making a will, should the “estate” be shared equally despite the differing levels of economic status? Some say divide equally, don’t play God. People make their own choices and lifestyles and it’s not up to a parent to attempt to rectify a lack of education, circumstances, etc. If I love them all equally, why not “share the wealth” equally? I use quote marks above because my “estate” is miniscule, but I’m really in a quandary. I suggested to my wealthiest child that I should not share equally and got a highly negative response from this child and the spouse. I want justice but not for any child to feel slighted.
OPINIONS RECEIVED: This is a biggie. My mother considered the same thing. I told her I would be terribly hurt if she did so. It is hard to explain why I felt so strongly that somehow it would mean she loved me less, though intellectually I could tell myself it wasn’t true. Equal inheritance will spare your children these doubts. It is a much secondary consideration, but those who have less need will probably look out more carefully for the others and will be more inclined to leave what they accumulate to their nieces and nephews. (cousin)
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Very difficult question you’re asking!. But here goes: knowing you have a daughter with Downs, who hardly made her own life choices, I would imagine she would need to be made provision for in a special way? In other words, more than the others who may be able to look out for themselves?
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Thanks for responding. I think my Downs daughter has been covered in my will separately. Just not the decision on the other matter.
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Difficult then to advise! Follow your heart is all I can think of.
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This is a biggie. My mother considered the same thing. I told her I would be terribly hurt if she did so. It is hard to explain why I felt so strongly that somehow it would mean she loved me less, though intellectually I could tell myself it wasn’t true. Equal inheritance will spare your children these doubts. It is a much secondary consideration, but those who have less need will probably look out more carefully for the others and will be more inclined to leave what they accumulate to their nieces and nephews.
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