TO THOSE WHO THINK SURVIVORS ARE DRAMA QUEENS

Published October 5, 2019 by Nan Mykel

Has the #Me Too movement gotten to the backlash stage yet?  It will, in part because people are so incredibly nauseated by  even thinking about sexual abuse, and most especially incest.

I just came across  a chapter which escaped the garbage several years ago, by Philip Ney and Anna Peters, who treat inest surivors. The article, Despair: Saying Good-bye to What Might Have Been or Could Be, deals with “The discrepancy between what they are and what they could have been produces an enormous incipient rage.”

“…They cannot recapture their childhood. Their needs will never be met. ..They can never become what they were designed to become…”

No one  can re-create that loveless childhood because each building block is age and stage specific.  A small example:  I’m a survivor of my father’s incestuous behavior.  I persevered  into becoming a survivor through excellent psychotherapy and escape into academia, but at the gut level I am always tense, if not afraid, of men.  And that’s half the human race!

Don’t get me wrong–I’m relatively content, even happy at times, but I know I’m not whole.

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