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MY MIRROR IS A LIAR

Published March 23, 2017 by Nan Mykel

For d’Verse–tho when I looked earlier I saw no Mar 23 listed as Open Link.

MY MIRROR iS A LIAR

It is my fifth birthday and

I am in pigtails, swinging

on the garage door,

wondering if I will still

be me

when I am grown.

Seventy-five years later,

I am.

 

Nostalgic for a place where my pain belonged

Published March 23, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Thanks for sharing such an important part of you. I could not have made it through graduate school without a strong strong outpatient therapy group. I’m reblogging this gem.

Laura's avatarblackspotsite

In the past few weeks, I’ve felt like each time the spring sunshine warmed me, it also drenched me in nostalgia. Fewer words more aptly describe a feeling than this one. Nostalgia is about more than recollection; it is about the bittersweet nature of specific memories.

I’m nerdy about language, so out of curiosity I looked up the etymology of this word. It’s roots are in the Greek ‘nostos’, meaning ‘to return home’ and ‘algos’, meaning ‘pain’. It evolved into a term for homesickness. I guess that still holds true today, because it tends to relate to a longing for something it isn’t possible to have. Whether that’s re-experiencing a moment of happiness or returning to a far away place we still love.

I found some resonance in the roots of this word today. That’s because what I am nostalgic about right now was a time both of intense pain…

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How to show support to a child loss survivor

Published March 23, 2017 by Nan Mykel

So clear and well-written! It should be helpful to many. And you show much compassion for others.

SURVIVOR SURVIVAL MANUAL

Published March 22, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Back when I as reading up the library I stumbled across some good ideas for psychic emergencies. The writers I read recommended developing a list of things to do in order to self soothe,  the calming process that babies learn and as adults we sometimes forget. A partial list of self-soothers might include:

Get out your copy of The Courage to Heal  and re-read it.

Call a friend, whose number is _______________.

If he or she isn’t home, call another number, which is _____________.

Have the number of the local crisis line or suicide hot line written down along with your other sources of support______________.

Breathe deeply.

Center yourself.

Take a warm bath or hot shower.

Cuddle your cat.

Journal and/or blog.

Go to the library.

Listen to your favorite music.

Make your bed (just joking!)

Take an Assertiveness Training Workshop.

Pray, if you have anyone to pray to.

Write a poem or do a spontaneous  drawing/painting/collage.

Read  Love After Love, a poem by Derek Walcott.

Remember, there’s no rush.

Protect your privacy.

Say “No” until you really want to say yes.

Imprisoned — 1986 Poem

Published March 22, 2017 by Nan Mykel

IMPRISONED

Touch the little bugs in the garden

and they roll into tight balls.

The possum plays dead to the world,

and the turtle hides inside his cell.

And the man? Somebody is

in need of help, but he sits

there daring you to help,

a tough guy,  inmate, con,

you name it.

His mama’s baby boy. But he

don’t need no help. Just sits

there, indifferent, on his bunk,

tough guy, all alone

in the crowded dorm.

His mama’s baby boy; tough

turtle doing troubled time.

 

The Most Important Post You Will Read This Week: Re-blog of re-blog (sort of)

Published March 20, 2017 by Nan Mykel

dianeravitch's avatarDiane Ravitch's blog

I will not post anything again for a while today, unless there is breaking news. You need time to read this article in full.

It is a long article by Jane Mayer of the New Yorker, who has written major books about the dark money fueling rightwing politics.

The article is an in-depth analysis of the role of billionaire Robert Mercer and his daughter Rebekah in the creation of the Trump presidency.

It is a long read. It is an important read, to understand the threat to our democracy posed by the power of unaccountable billionaires.

It is fascinating, like watching a car crash, in this case, a political tragedy.

It begins with the shocking news that Patrick Caddell, who long ago was a pollster for Jimmy Carter, is now helping Trump behind the scenes.

Then it gets into the life and personality and actions of Robert Mercer, a…

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Therapists must stop peddling “Recovery” as a Holy Grail-Re-blog

Published March 20, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Hope some therapists are following your blog! I’m re-blogging.

Serena Bradshaw's avatarTalking of incest

Dear Friends

Do you sometimes feel frustrated with your Therapist? I’m sorry to say that, in a selfish way, I hope you can relate to this little story.

I’m looking for a new therapist and I had an initial phone call with a woman who presented on the internet as experienced and wise. I explained that I was 57 and that my father began the sexual abuse when I was 6. I was inviting her to recognise that I had survived for over half a century. I explained that I had experienced numerous therapists; and that I had made progress with them in working through different aspects of my life.  I explained to this wise woman that I do best when I have a long-term relationship with a therapist with whom I can do pieces of work whenever the need arises. I explained that I generally do okay but at 57…

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Have we forgotten? A Lucky otters re-blog

Published March 18, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Truer today than ever.

luckyotter's avatarLucky Otters Haven

Wise words from a Republican:

“Every gun that is made, every warship launched, every rocket fired signifies, in the final sense, a theft from those who hunger and are not fed, those who are cold and are not clothed.
This world in arms is not spending money alone. It is spending the sweat of its laborers, the genius of its scientists, the hopes of its children…
This is not a way of life at all, in any true sense. Under the cloud of threatening war, it is humanity hanging from a cross of iron.”

–Dwight D. Eisenhower, US President, 1953 -1961

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