Reblog: From Markmaynard.com on Betsy DeVos

Published February 4, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Sorry I’m speechless. Re-blogged from Gronda Morin’s re-blog.

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I am reblogging this publication about the nomination of Betsy DeVos as Education Secretary which was posted on 2/4/17 by Mark Maynard. Please contact your Senators to oppose this nomination. YOU CAN FIND PHONE NUMBERS FOR EVERY SENATORS HERE.

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This Monday, Betsy DeVos is likely to be handed the Department of Education by those Republican Senators that she’s admitted to having bought off

I can’t say for certain whether or not the dollar amounts indicated on this chart, which was floating around the internet today, are absolutely accurate, but, from what I know about DeVos, and what she herself has said about spending money in order to get politicians to do what she wants, I don’t have much reason to doubt them. Regardless of the exact dollar amounts, we know that DeVos has used her $5.1 billion fortune to pay Republican legislators for their…

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TWO PARAGRAPHS CHAPTER 14: The Fallout

Published February 3, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

While growing up I did feel different from most of my classmates. I was carrying a deep, dark secret , one that had the potential of blowing up my world and the world of my family. That feeling grew until being different from others took on that aura of being worse than others and yet special at the same time. The feelings served to distance me from others, and as an adult one of my challenges has been to let go of this and other distancing mechanisms.(p. 137)

…Gil describes dissociation as a “common occurrence among adult survivors.” (1988, 149) Briere writes that “the presence of depersonalization, derealization, compartmentalization and so on may produce splits or shifting boundaries in the child’s sense of self….in the words of one angry (but articulate) adolescent survivor: “Don’t you understand? There’s nobody inside here to hear what you say. I’m just empty. I just do what happens.”(1992, 46). (p. 141)

FALLOUT

Published February 3, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

Q: How did dealing with incest affect the rest of your life? A: What rest of my life? –Bass and Davis, 1994

The first draft of this book contained no references. It was my experience, my story. Then I realized how easy it would be for incest perpetrators to discount me and my words, especially since they would not want to believe what I had to say. Thus I turned to the research and literature in order to validate my experience and observations, although that decision added years to the project.

The primary purpose of this book is to foster empathy and understanding on the part of offenders for survivors in order to decrease the likelihood of reoffending. This book also has the potential to answer some llingering “whys” for survivors. (p. 133)

ONE PARAGRAPH PER CHAPTER – Chapter 13: Protecting

Published February 2, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

Linda Sanford offers a number of helpful suggestions in her book The Silent Children: A Parent’s Guide to Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse. Especially useful are a number of “what if” game scenarios. She strongly recommends that children be warned about possible molesters at four different levels: stranger contacts, acquaintance contacts, child-care contacts, and contacts with people the child loves (Sanford 1985, 217-69). It is also recommended that prevention efforts include both adult and juvenile predators (Kikuchi, 1995), (p, 124)

ONE PARAGRAPH PER CHAPTER – Chapter 12: After He Returns [from prison] Then What?

Published February 2, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

Family of origin members do not want to believe the perpetrator is really a “sexual pervert,” They want to believe that it was a fleeting anomaly and and that after treatment and/or incarceration he is his “old self” gain. They will often send their own child off for a walk in the park with the perpetrator in order to reassure themselves that their family member is trustworthy once again. Red alert! Red alert! This is an extremely dangerous tendency. Do not put any child in harm’s way as a test! In their deterination to reassure themselves that their beloved transgressor is really a regular guy, family members may cooperate with relapse prevention plans on a a temporary basis only, not a life-long basis, as is required if re-offending is not to occur. One offender who had been in treatment lived acrss the street from a playground. After his release his wife confided that she was not letting him go over to the playground “yet.”….[Unfortunately, there is always the risk of re-offending]. (p. 118)

WHILE THERE’S TIME…

Published February 1, 2017 by Nan Mykel

Who knows what programs will be cut in order to pay for the Mexican wall? A democratic freedom-of-speech-grassroots-outfit like Public Access television could conceivably go on the chopping block. And in my opinion that would be a crying shame.

As a volunteer producer for years, I get choked up just thinking about it. What a wide-open and free canvas for local creativity! What an opportunity for community-building! Strut your stuff, Athens, Ohio! Use of the equipment is free, as is use of the 3-camera studio. This is me on my former weekly show Kaleidoscope, before old age and decrease in word-finding skills curtailed me: (No, I think it’s a different one):

There goes my mind! Catch it!

We have the capability for call-in-shows, skits, “green screen” backdrops, self-editing equipment. With sufficient volunteers we can “cover” League of Women Voter debates, Final Friday art shows, puppet skits, the Horse Pull and Demolition Derby at the Fair, demonstrations and marches, wild life, political discussion shows, turtle feeling, the Homecoming Parade, interviews with elected officials, Junior Producers, the Humane Society, NAMI and Steampunk shows, poetry readings, plus YOUR OWN talking heads show, if that’s your thing! All sows are scheduled several times a week (make that “shows!”)

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ANSWER TO JANUARY 28 QUIZ

Published February 1, 2017 by Nan Mykel

The treatment quiz:

Mary and her husband live on the south bank of a river. Her husband wants her to stay at home and not cross the river to the town. She wants to go to town. There is a bridge across the river, but men have been robbing and killing people who cross the bridge, and Mary’s husband won’t give her money for the ferry. Mary begins saving the grocery money for the ferry and crossing the river to town on the ferry while her husband is away. Finally, she meets a man in town and takes him as a lover. She crosses the river more frequently and he gives her money to get back home. He gets mad at her one day and refuses to give her the return fare home. She asks the ferryman to let her charge the return trip but he refuses, saying it is against company policy. Finally, she crosses the bridge and is killed.

Q- Whose fault is it that Mary was killed? (Answer on Feb. 1).

ONE PARAGRAPH PER CHAPTER – Chapter 11: The Sexual Bond

Published January 31, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

Having been both classically and operantly conditioned to become aroused by deviant sex is a secret that hangs heavy on the heart of many victims of incest. Opening themselves to the possibility of sexual pleasure can be extremely difficult for survivors. As one woman said, “If positive sexuality is my right…I don’t think I want my right!” (Maltz and Holman 1987, 7). (p. 107)

ONE PARAGRAPH PER CHAPTER – Chapter 10: My Trauma Bond

Published January 30, 2017 by Nan Mykel

From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

Broken boundaries, loss of boundaries, incorporation, intrusion, invasiveness, the edges of my self were in tatters. My defenses were down. I was haunted. Not only was Daddy the master manipulator but also the stealthy intruder who entered my dreams in various guises. For some time I had dreamed of a huge spider, sometimes waking in the middle of the night to see it up on the ceiling over my bed. Then one day I saw the connection, with a flash of clarity: the spider was my father’s hand, its legs his fingers. With that recognition, the spider dreams stopped forever. [These dreams were decades after cessation of the incest.] I don’t believe I ever wrote that down in my journal. (p. 102)

MORALITY REFLECTION – Culture

Published January 30, 2017 by Nan Mykel

FROM STEVEN PINKER’S The Blank Slate: p. 273

If only one person in the world held down a terrified, struggling, screaming little girl, cut off her genitals with a septic blade, and sewed her back up, leaving only a tiny hole for urine and menstrual flow, the only question would be how severely that person should be punished, and whether the death penalty would be a sufficiently severe sanction. But when millions of people do this, , instead of the enormity being magnified millions-fold, suddenly it becomes “culture,” and thereby becomes less, rather than more, horrible, and is even defended by some Western “moral thinkers,” including feminists.

What is your opinion?

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