From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

If the above list reminds you of any vulnerabilities to reoffending,  then you have a “growing edge” that you can work on.  Ask yourself, honestly, whether you want to reoffend… Since you’re focussing on yourself now, in the privacy of your own mind, you can isolate those events and thoughts that lead to offending, and commit yourself to avoid them. (p. 81)

For d’Verse:

I WILL WRITE A DIFFERENT VERSE

…than the one running out of my ears,

streaming from beneath my spectacles,

filling my basin and potty:

O beautiful, for spacious skies,

for amber waves of grain!

No hand-wringing. Let’s pretend

freedom’s train is around the bend.

Let imagination have its way

and take us to a better day.

Amen.

From Fallout: A Survivor Talks to Incest  Offenders (And Others), by moi.IS THIS YOU?  It appears that males, with their testosterone, macho culture and possible genetic influences, may be reluctant to disclose that they have been abused.  I realize now that admitting that they have been damaged  by sexual abuse is tantamount to admitting vulnerabilty,  a trait not in keeping with the offender’s self image. (p 23)

From Fallout: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (And Others), by moi.

And I am not special, although I still struggle with this. During many years of “keeping the secret” and believing that I had wielded great magnetic power destructively, I did feel special–especially wicked, especially confused in the head. I still feel different from others. It’s a weird mix of feelings, debased and inflated, and is a flip-flop survivors have come to know well. (p 9)

A REPEATING LINE  for d.Verse

repeating line– what’s worth repeating…

Sit up straight!

Don’t talk with your mouth full.

Don’t drag your feet.

Eat all your veggies.

If they weren’t worth repeating

why did we hear them so often?

A repeating line might just a well be

I love to hear you sing.

You’re so gentle with the baby.

Your drawing looks just like us.

I’m so proud of you.

What’s worth repeating?

Food for thought:

What do I  say that’s

worth repeating?

While trying to organize my office I found the following, unfortunately without attribution:

Hatred of evil affects the one who hates. It makes him or her a hateful person, a person who also has absented his self or her self from the light. If you strike without compassion against the darkness,  you yourself enter the darkness.

Later however, I turned to Google and Pinterest and found a similar quote by Alice Harz Sommer:

Hatred eats the soul of the hater, not the hated.

Daily Kos by Jen Hayden

[Rep. Barbara Lee (D-CA) issues statement re Inauguration]

“Inaugurations are celebratory events, a time to welcome the peaceful transition of power and honor the new administration. On January 20th, I will not be celebrating or honoring an incoming president who rode racism, sexism, xenophobia and bigotry to the White House.

“Donald Trump ran one of the most divisive and prejudiced campaigns in modern history. He began his campaign by insulting Mexican immigrants, pledging to build a wall between the United States and Mexico and then spent a year and a half denigrating communities of color and normalizing bigotry. He called women ‘pigs’, stoked Islamophobia, and attacked a Gold Star family. He mocked a disabled reporter and appealed to people’s worst instincts.  I cannot in good conscience attend an inauguration that would celebrate this divisive approach to governance.

“After the election, many hoped the president-elect would turn toward unifying our country. Instead he has shown us that he will utilize the same tools of division he employed on the campaign trail as our nation’s Commander-in-Chief. We need look no further than the team he is assembling to find signals that the era of Trump will be one of chaos and devastation for our communities.

“The president-elect has named Steve Bannon, a white nationalist as his chief strategist. He has nominated Senator Jeff Sessions to the office of Attorney General, despite his long career of opposition to civil and human rights. And in perhaps the most damning sign of the chaos to come, the president-elect has expedited the process to repeal the Affordable Care Act and make America sick again.”

“To make matters worse, after the intelligence community reported Russian interference in our election, Donald Trump frequently and forcefully defended Vladimir Putin. He insulted senior intelligence officials in order to preserve his reputation and disguise the truth. The American people will never forget that when a foreign government violated our democracy, Donald Trump chose the interests of another nation over our own.

“Donald Trump has proven that his administration will normalize the most extreme fringes of the Republican Party. On Inauguration Day, I will not be celebrating. I will be organizing and preparing for resistance.”

Nothing new to say today

but I still want to play

blogger with you.

You paint my nails

and I’ll paint yours,

and we’ll eat pickled herring; eew!

Nothing new today you  say?

What about Aleppo and Putin

and that red-headed man?

You can’t stop now!  

Well, d’Verse’s Mr. Linky has expired.

I don’t know how to tell the world.

Did you ever read Loren Eisley’s

“The Star Thrower?”  Read it.