What the hell do I know? Not F—ing much. Do I really know that 1 + 1 = 2? Often 1 + 1 = 1. Worst case, 1 + 1 = 0.
How about that “the truth shall set you free?” ….or in the looney bin.
That you really loved me? 1 + 7 = 1
That God loves me? Who? Loves? Who?
That might makes right? Wrong.
That pacifism is the way to go? And go, go, go, gone.
It’s easier to love pets than humans? Depends upon the pet, not the human.
What to do now? Better search for beauty again.
Dwell not on finding Truth my friend
for it shall drive you mad.
The eyes that spy the way things are
will only leave you sad.
Bedlam is filled with clear-eyed folk
whose blinders were shorn away.
Unalloyed truth can scorch
and even love betray.
For some, going around the last bend can be quite disconcerting. It’s natural (and easier) to want to take care of the feelings of the elderly, and so sometimes they are “protected” from the truth. Not telling someone they’e dying has been dealt with definitively, I hope. What I’m talking about is weakening the individual’s hold on reality by ushering them into a world of make-believe. I’m trying to figure out why it is so bothersome. Well, first off it puts the younger person in a one-up position, making decisions for the elderly instead of respecting their ability to withstand the truth. More important, I think, it tends to make the older person into a legitimate paranoid. What is a legitimate paranoid? In my book it’s one who knows some statements are true, but having trouble deciding which are true and which are the “protection.” It kinda turns life into a rotten game, and especially towards the end that is an undesirable state to be in. I guess what it lacks is respect. If you disagree, tell me about it.
Our Shadow Selves
The conflict between the need to be accurate and the desire to feel good about ourselves is one of the major battlegrounds of the self, and how this battle is waged and how it is won are central determinants of who we are and how we feel about ourselves.
A dose of self-deception can be helpful as well, enabling us to maintain a positive view of ourselves and an optimistic view of the future. (Strangers to Ourselves, p 39)