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I Can’t Run Away

Published December 30, 2024 by Nan Mykel

It’s tempting to just “forget” what’s happening today in the world, but running away gets me no place, even away.  So while I’m drawn to try and escape acid reflux topics, I will at least mix the two for awhile, at least until my readership vanishes.  That said, today’s mixture:

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“INDIAN GIVER?”

Was Jimmy Carter already dead when Trump announced  his intention/wish to take the Panama Canal  back?  The Canal Zone was constructed following Jim Crow policies of segregation. Privileged white U.S. citizens and their dependents were granted certain rights based on race. Black Panamanians and migrant laborers, mostly from the Caribbean, took the bulk of low-paying jobs and lived in the Canal Zone’s segregated neighborhoods. (Google)  When President, Jimmy Carter signed  https://www.newsweek.com/fact-check

The stretch of land 50 miles long and 10 miles wide in the middle of the Panamanian isthmus had been under U.S. control since 1903, with construction of the canal starting in earnest the following year.

The U.S. Canal Zone had its own government, court system, schools, police force, fire department. It had its own governor, appointed by the president of the U.S. Living in the zone meant access to free housing, free schools, state-of-the-art medical facilities, manicured lawns, clean streets, little-league football and Fourth of July parades.

But when Panamanians set foot in the Canal Zone, their citizenship rights were void and they could be prosecuted under different laws and regulations.

The Panama Canal Treaty promised to give control of the canal to the Panamanians by midnight Dec. 31, 1999. The Treaty of Permanent Neutrality and Operation declared the canal neutral and open to vessels of all nations and allowed the U.S. to retain the permanent right to defend the canal from any threat.

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Voters in Odessa, Texas, have overwhelmingly rebuked the city’s anti-trans reputation by replacing the three city council members who supported its infamous bathroom ban – and also by electing Odessa’s first-ever gay council member.

Craig Stoker, executive director for the local Meals on Wheels, campaigned on improving the city’s infrastructure, while his opponent – incumbent Denise Swanner – campaigned on homophobia.

From <https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2024/12/voters-oust-visciously-anti-trans-city-council-trio-elect-the-citys-first-gay-councilmember/

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She was set on fire and no one knows her name. How homelessness, crime and a broken immigration system met in a subway car-CNN

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    IFFY
A women-only space is an area where only women (and in some cases children) are allowed, thus providing a place where they do not have to interact with men. Historically and globally, many cultures had, and many still have, some form of female seclusion.   Wikipedia   Separate bathrooms in the United States are okay, except in the case of transfolks.  When I was abroad I can remember being in a unisex bathroom. Don’t recall the country.
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Artificial intelligence (AI)
‘Godfather of AI’ shortens odds of the technology wiping out humanity over next 30 years

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FORTY DIFFERENT FRUIT ON ONE TREE

 

Why can’t we do it?

 

 

 

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I GUESS  I  COULD BE CALLED AN ALLIE IN GHANA

An  Amendment in Ghana would classify LGBTQ+ people, allies,  and related acts as “fugitive criminals.” In the same vein as murderers, rapists, bank robbers and more. This means anyone engaged in LGBTQAP+ activities who are merely deemed to have committed offenses would be subject to extradition to Ghana. Under such extradition law, Ghana could potentially request the extradition of individuals from countries with which it has extradition treaties. The treaty with the US, for example, was extended from its initiating UK treaty which covered Commonwealth countries.

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FRIENDLY AMPUTATIONS

Combat can leave the ants with leg injuries. But as scientists recently discovered, these ants have evolved an effective wound treatment: amputation.

In the journal Current Biology, on Tuesday, researchers report that the ants bite off the injured limbs of their nest mates to prevent infection. Although other ant species are known to tend to the wounds of their injured, typically by licking them clean, this is the first time that an ant species has been known to use amputation to treat an injury.

The ants in the study performed amputations on only certain leg injuries, suggesting that they are methodical in their surgical practices. Aside from humans, no other animal is known to conduct such amputations. The prevalence of the behavior among Florida carpenter ants raises questions about their intelligence and their ability to feel pain.

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Male Versus Female —

“We need the humility to acknowledge that we haven’t come near to solving male versus female issues in the United States. But at least we discuss them openly, shattering taboos — and throwing stones from a glass house is still preferable to silence as women and girls are murdered and assaulted in large numbers around the world.”  https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/18/opinion/sexual-violence-women.html

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Erin in the Morning

120 Anti-Trans Bills Filed Across the United States This Year

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NAN says:  Well, I experimented good vs bad, but I think I stayed a little more down than up…

 

 

 

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TO TAKE YOUR MIND OFF…

Published December 25, 2024 by Nan Mykel

The following is probably from an Edgar Cayce Dream Course I took years ago:

The ancient Greeks paid close attention to certain dreams that seemed to predict illness. Hippocrates,the Greek physician called the father of medicine, thought that specific dream images prognosticated future ailments. Such dreams are probably responses of the brain to minute bodily symptoms of sensations that are magnified and dramatized during sleep.  Symptoms of illness often appear in dreams long before they are observable while awake.  As you learn the common dream signs of both illness and improvement, you have the opportunity to pick up forewarnings each night. When the images are dire, you can take action to protect yourself. For instance, if you dream that you are driving a car that’s going too fast and its brakes have failed you should find a way to slow down your waking lifestyle before you crash.

HOUSE METAPHORS FOR THE BODY

HOUSE PART                                                                                  BODY PART

spine                                                                                                    staircase

framework                                                                                          skeleton, bones

windows                                                                                              eyes

front door                                                                                           mouth, vagina

back door                                                                                            anus

furnace                                                                                                stomach, womb

pipes                                                                                                    blood vessels, ducts

electrical wiring                                                                                 nerves

room                                                                                                     inner space

balcony                                                                                                breasts

chimney, tower                                                                                  phallus

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AUTOMOBILE PART                                                                     BODY PART

body (outer shell)                                                                              body surface

steering wheel                                                                                    mind-set, control

brakes                                                                                                  ability to control activity

headlights                                                                                           eyes

horn                                                                                                     voice

fuel                                                                                                       energy level

engine, concealed parts                                                                   inner organs

tires or wheels                                                                                   legs

 

IF YOU DREAM ABOUT AN AUTOMOBILE AS A METAPHOR for your body, you should consider:

Which brand is it?

Which model (sedan, convertible, sports, racing)

What condition is it in?

How well does it function?

Are you at the steering wheel?  If not, who is in control?

Is the car going too slow or too fast?

Do the brakes work?

Is the car moving properly on the road or has it swerved off?

Is it stuck in a rut?

Is there danger of a crash?

Is there a flat tire?

Are the inner parts malfunctioning?

Is the exterior rusty or polished?

Is there enough gas?

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UPDATE ON NURSERY RHYMES

Georgie Porgie:  About the Prince Regent George IV of Britain, who was exceedingly fat and left a string of illegitimate children.:“Georgie Porgie, pudding and pie, Kissed the girls and made them cry.”  Seems to me there’s a piece missing somewhere.

Little children today don’t skip rope to rhymes about Bill Clinton and Monica.  If you know what piece of the history is missing, please share with us.  Maybe they will some day skip rope while singing about the Kennedy’s and Marilyn Monroe or the president elect and Stormy Daniels?  My guess is there’s even more colorful events around the corner.  What say ye?

Three Blind Mice –  [Bloody] Queen Mary of England  refers to her order to have three Protestant bishops viciously  killed, possibly blinded.

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Well, if I don’t get back to you later today. Happy Holidays….Oh, just a late note that our incoming president wants to retake the Suez Canal.

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HOLY COW!

Published December 20, 2024 by Nan Mykel

It’s fairly well accepted that the contents of a number of nursery rhymes reflect pieces of actual history. Why?  Many nursery rhymes originated in times when life was harsh. They often reflected societal issues, such as poverty, disease, and war. The realities of life during these periods influenced the themes of the rhymes.  Also, there was no internet nor telephones.  So I guess the adults talked to each other.  Still, I can’t imagine  adults sharing references of that kind with children.

 The domain of once oral “folk” material that children have kept alive—folktales and fairy tales; fables, sayings, riddles, charms, tongue twisters; folksongs, lullabies, hymns, carols, and other simple poetry; rhymes of the street, the playground, the nursery; and, supremely, Mother Goose, and other “nonsense” verse, bubbles around us, often forgotten or disremembered.
 The idea that little children through the ages may have been parroting references to grizzly actions they surely did not understand is difficult for me to process.  I can remember rocking one of my own while singing Bye Baby Bunting, and as a child myself skipping rope to Cinderella and joining hands with friends, singing Ring Around the Rosey, pockets full of posies.  I knew nothing of  the plague and that posies helped cover the smell of death during the plague.  I must have been busy cleaning the blackboard or something, because I can remember only Cinderella…went upstairs to kiss her fellow and Black Sheep, Black Sheep, have you any wool while jumping rope.   Maybe a trace of Teddy Bear, Teddy Bear also..
And I kind of always worried about the end of Rockabye Baby.  Stay tuned for what’s inside those juicy rhymes.
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WHAT!?
“We’re living in a world where facts instantly perish upon contact with human minds,” George Packer wrote in The Atlantic this month. “Local news is disappearing, and a much-depleted national press can barely compete with the media platforms of billionaires who control users algorithmically, with an endless stream of conspiracy theories and deepfakes. The internet, which promised to give everyone information and a voice, has consolidated in just a few hands the power to destroy the very notion of objective truth.”
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Don’t Know  Where I Was when this happened:  Odessa, Texas became a national name after its strict anti-trans bathroom ban that allows individual citizens (whether or not they are Odessa or even Texas residents) to sue a trans person for a minimum of $10,000 in damages if they violate it (there is no cap on how large the bounty can be). 
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I also didn’t know Musk had a transgender daughter, either, who in her alienation from him exchanges insults, back and forth.
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Louisiana bans staff from helping people get mpox, COVID & flu vaccines
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TOO CLOSE TO HOME

Published December 18, 2024 by Nan Mykel

WOW…and Trump isn’t even president yet….United Health Care is my connection, as well as CareMark.  Slipping under my feet, with no  suspicions.  Will the investigations be dropped under our new president?

I’m referring to  news items about…

Earlier this year, a Senate committee investigated Medicare Advantage plans denying nursing care to patients who were recovering from falls and strokes. It concluded that three major companies — UnitedHealthcare, Humana and CVS, which owns Aetna — were intentionally denying claims for this expensive care to increase profits. UnitedHealthcare, the report noted, denied requests for such nursing stays three times more often than it did for other services. (Humana had an even higher figure, denying at a rate 16 times higher.)   /unitedhealthcare-ceo-brian-thompson

I didn’t bite on Medicare Advantage because it advertised so much.

No one knows how often private insurers like UnitedHealthcare deny claims because they are generally not required to publish that data. People who bought coverage under Obamacare, a government-funded plan, had 17 percent of their care denied in 2021, according to KFF, a health policy group. Other surveys have found that denials are more prevalent among those with private insurance than those who carried government coverage.

UnitedHealthcare, part of the giant conglomerate UnitedHealth Group, reported more than $16 billion in operating profits last year and employed roughly 140,000 people. The company is a frequent lightning rod for criticism over how it handles claims.

Oxycontin misbehavior:  This week I read about so much illegal conniving that I got a little depressed, especially about one that detailed oxycontin illegal  manipulation in the pharmacy/medical illegal activities.  I guess I asked for it–read  digitaldefynd.com’s 60 biggest  Business Scandals in History for a jolt or

  1. Fraud
  2. 2020 National Health Care Fraud and Opioid Takedown

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I GUESS I’M NAIVE –If all conditions are satisfied and the non-monetary terms – which still need to be determined – are finalized, CVS Health has agreed it will pay approximately $5 billion ($4.9 billion to states and political subdivisions and approximately $130 million to tribes) over the next ten years beginning in 2023, depending on the number of governmental entities that agree to join the settlement. (Re the oxycontin scandal).

The agreement would fully resolve claims dating back a decade or more and is not an admission of any liability or wrongdoing.   5 billion for no wrongdoing?

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I REGRET SO MANY suspicions, before Trump is even in office.  But, when I read a  UnitedHealthcare representative  made humanizing remarks about  their late CEO, including the statement that

“While the health system is not perfect, every corner of it is filled with people who try to do their best for those they serve.”  Who are those they serve?  The Stockholders?  Grrr, as another blogger said.

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When I read that so many wealthy outfits are cozying up to Trump, my blood runs cold.

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I didn’t know there were so many school shootings:  This year, nine shooting suspects were female compared with 249 who were male, according to the K-12 School Shooting Database.

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Headlines: South Korea’s President Is Impeached After Martial Law Crisis….Maybe this will make Trump think twice before doing it?

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DUMB:  To ask folks who survived due to the polio vaccine to wipe out their saviour?  {re nytimes post)

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ENOUGH HAND WRINGING — The good lord willing, my next blog will be about nursery rhymes  (but not all necessarily happy)….

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WEIRD?

Published December 14, 2024 by Nan Mykel

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m not strange, but maybe a little weird.  Or perhaps you do the following also, but don’t notice:

For years I have occasionally woken myself from dreaming by hearing various noises.  What’s weird is that the kind of noise adheres to the place I’m sleeping.  If I’m living in a house without a doorbell, the noise is knocking at my front door.  If my house has a doorbell, it rings.  If I have a cell phone that rings.

Once I woke to the sound of a dog in my hallway and went back to sleep, figuring it was my daughter with her dog making a surprise visit. In the morning I found the guest bedroom empty; no dog, no daughter.

Yesterday I woke to what I assumed to be my daughter’s radio alarm.  I looked at my watch and it was 9 a.m.  She has to be at work at 8:10 a.m., so I called out upstairs to see if she had overslept.  When there was no answer I was about to go up to see if she was okay, when I saw that a sweater I had been helping her with the night before was no longer on the arm of the chair, so I relaxed.

After a few minutes puzzling, I realized that I didn’t even have my hearing aids in, so I couldn’t have heard the radio upstairs.  Besides, I later discovered she doesn’t even have a radio alarm.  Moreover, my short term memory surfaced and I realized I had called out “Mother!”  [No wonder there was no answer?]

This dream awakening to match my living arrangements can’t be just old age, because it’s sporadically occurred over 30 years.  Last time I had decided that next time I would immediately focus on what I had been dreaming, to see if there was a clue there, but I was too “out of it.”

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BRIEF BRIEFS

Since I’ve already begun being frivolous, here’s something I scribbled going to sleep the other night:

When upset how  do you respond?

yell___     curse____     cry____     pout____     throw things____     clam up____     scream____     drink____

snort____     eat____     sleep____     laugh____     hit yourself____     hit others____     pray____     discuss____

write____     sing____     turn on tv____     OOPS, I FORGOT:  kill____     swindle___   blackmail____

self immolate____

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DID YOU EVER TRY TO WRITE AN HONEST AUTOBIOGRAPHY?

If you have re-owned traits formerly projected in Jung’s  Shadow, how do you handle it?  How do you manage to  not

sound like making excuses?  Or bragging?

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OH PLEASE….

Mr. Trump ultimately sued ABC, accusing Mr. Stephanopoulos of harming his reputation.  Shoulda gone to Court.  What reputation?  The one he usually brags about?

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YAY!

New Jersey’s governor just signed a law banning book bans to ensure kids can “read freely”

The Freedom to Read Act protects both the books and the librarians who curate them.

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CLIMATE UNEASE

Published December 14, 2024 by Nan Mykel

Some of the unease that people feel about climate change comes from a sense that things are out of our control — that the climate is changing faster than we can adapt. However, many of the most dire risks lie not with the most likely outcomes but the worst-case possibilities, for example, the collapse of the West Antarctic ice sheet, or the drying up of the Amazon and other potential tipping points. But there is a lot we don’t know about if or when those tipping points will come to pass.

Weather forecast research for extreme weather has been based on approximately seven-year cycles to produce reports that summarize the evolving science about long-term changes in climate. The data that went into the latest round of climate model simulations are based on observations that only run through 2014. Last year was much hotter than predicted.  There is a gap between what is needed and what is available.

To fix this, we need to create a better way for climate models to reflect new observations.  This needs to be matched by a commitment by the roughly 30 labs around the world that maintain the models of the earth’s climate system to update their simulations each year. A goal of analyzing data in under six months is achievable if the data-gathering and climate-modeling labs prioritize it.  The good news is that climate science could easily become more agile in understanding the rapid changes we are seeing in the real world, incorporating them into our projections of the future and, hopefully, reducing that uncertainty.

And hopefully our new leaders will take the immediate future of our planet seriously.

Definition of a tipping point: According to the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change (IPCC), tipping points are ‘critical thresholds in a system that, when exceeded, can lead to a significant change in the state of the system, often with an understanding that the change is irreversible.

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Breaking news: President Biden is pardoning nearly 1,500 Americans, a record for one day. (A number of these are reportedly 
on Trump's hit list once he is president). He has also pardoned his son Hunter.  I am glad he and the vice president were polite during
the official meetings with the new regime, but I'm also encouraged to see them fighting fire with fire about more elemental things.

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Today, Erin Reed shared her latest update to her map of anti-transgender risk. The map is well known among activists and transgender people. It shows risks both by state and at the national level. Overall, the news is absolutely not good.

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Wish I’d Said That!

Published December 12, 2024 by Nan Mykel

The Green Study has been a personal essay blog for the last ten years and the commenting community here is largely made up of smart, thoughtful, respectful, and considerate humans. Despite that, polarization of politics has affected many of us right down to the bone. No matter what side you’re on, heels are dug in, and many of us are not particularly good at engaging on controversial topics, myself included, without reacting with defensive anger. Be that as it may, I still consider this my turf and as such, will curate it to the best of my ability. My guiding principles for the comment section are civility, mindfulness, authenticity, and growth. Civility: No personal attacks, name calling or needless escalation. The use of stereotypes or labels and cutesy insult names are not appreciated. Mindfulness: Not everyone shares your life experiences or perspectives. Don’t assume. Authenticity: Save the talking points for the big dogs. I tune out people who recite memes, fake news, inaccurate science, or try to hawk their own wares. Be you and stick with your own perspective. Growth: Conversations get better when people expand on ideas or give a unique perspective. On that note, I have not always followed these principles myself when writing posts and am trying to be more mindful about that. I still like salty language in context and believe that humor which punches upward has its place. If I do not have the time, energy or wherewithal to curate comments on a post effectively, particularly if it’s controversial, comments will be turned off. Please feel free to send me a message via my contact page and I’ll answer emails as time permits. Thank you. Share this:

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I Didn’t Know–Did you?

Published December 10, 2024 by Nan Mykel

OECD - Energy Education

I visited Google and saw a number of articles beginning with “OEDC countries,” with no explanation of what they were talking about.  I figured OEDC was such common knowledge that I must be a dummy not to know.

Seems it was otherwise.  More specifically on Google  I learned that The Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) is a unique forum where the governments of 37 democracies with market-based economies collaborate to develop policy standards to promote sustainable economic growth.  Non-OECD countries are called developing economies or modernizing economies. https://energyeducation.ca/encyclopedia/OECD#:~:text

China has been an OECD Key Partner since 2007, alongside Brazil, India, Indonesia and South Africa. Since embarking on a programme of dialogue and co-operation with China in 1995, the OECD has contributed to policy reform in China through the sharing of policy experience.  I’m unsure about the count list of member countries, since in one post the U.S. refers to the OECD’s number as “democracies,” yet Russia and China–and I don’t know what other countries would not be considered democracies. Incidentally, not surprisingly it appears the largest countries are not in favor of any international enforceable climate change laws, although its [“our”] response was more than 100 pages long.  

Iceland stands at the top of countries with the lowest poverty rates with a poverty rate of 4.9% in 2021. In 2017, Iceland’s poverty rate even hit 0%, according to the World Bank. Nov 12, 2022.  
What is the poorest OECD country?  Figured one way it’s the United States; another way has number one being Costa Rica with the U.S. being the number two poorest: When analyzing poverty as the number of persons who fall below 50 percent of a country’s median income, we find that the United States has far and away the highest overall poverty rate in a group of 26 developed nations.
Let me repeat that:  Of the number of persons who fall below 50 percent of a country’s median income, the United States has the highest overall poverty rate in a group of 26 developed nations.
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GAY  COLUMN:
400 anti-L.G.B.T.Q. bills have already been considered in the U.S. this new year alone, aiming to surpass the 510 anti-L.G.B.T.Q.bills introduced in 2023, leading transpersons and their children to scary and perjorative attacks.
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Although I haven’t seen Oppenheimer, I can imagine the surprise experienced  recently when learning that Emma Dumont, who played the role of Jackie Oppenheimer in the movie Oppenheimer, has come out as transexual and binary.
Alex Consani was named Model of the Year at the Fashion Awards in London on Monday. She is the first transgender woman to win the prize.
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THE MAP ABOVE –  I still don’t know how many if any non-democratic nations belong to the OEDC.  The map appears to suggest the Soviet Union is not a member, but some definitions portray members as democracies.  Be alert to some inconsistency.

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REBLOG: HOW OLD IS GENDER?

Published December 9, 2024 by Nan Mykel
Hopefully this reblog  from an early post by gendermom.wordpress.com will serve to clarify some lingering transgender questions: Let a Gender Mom address the question:  https://gendermom.wordpress.com/2013/07/10/how-old-is-gender/  
When did you first know what gender you were?  Chances are, by age four or five, you were firmly and comfortably established, for life, as a boy or girl.  I know I was.  But it’s not like that for everyone.

My recent post on the Bitch magazine blog got a fair number of responses, among them several questioning whether five years old was too young to be talking about gender, let alone to be “allowing” my “male” child to live as a girl.  I hear this kind of thing a lot.

I, too, probably would have raised similar questions until my child appeared on the scene and began, as children are so apt to do, to teach me all sorts of things I didn’t know I didn’t know.

According to my child’s preschool teacher, four-year-old children are pretty preoccupied with gender.  This is when they’re trying to sort the world out into the categories that we adults are so famously obsessed with.  This is when girls become enamored with pink, and when boy decide that it’s all about the trucks and Legos.

Unlike sexual orientation, which does generally develop later, children at age four and five are aligning and identifying with the gender that they will likely carry with them through the rest of their lives.

But, my dear reader, you already know that.  You already know that we don’t keep kids in a gender-neutral limbo until adolescence.  You know that the parents have already selected the color of the baby shower invitations, decided on a name, and dreamed a thousand gendered dreams for their child based on whether those ultrasound pictures showed what my young nephew Adam calls a “ninky.”

I did this, too.  And for this I have to pause for a moment and just say, to my child:  I’m sorry.  I’m so sorry that, before you even breathed on your own, I loaded you up with a big steaming pile of gendered expectations.  I’m sorry I didn’t realize until recently how silly this was.  I know it could have saved you a lot of angst if I had.  (I’ll pay for the therapy, OK?)

So, here’s the deal: If my five-year-old child had a vagina, would anyone be giving me shit for letting her wear dresses and call herself a girl?  Would anyone be telling me that “five years old is awfully young to be assigning labels, dear.”

Imagine everyone you know taking a “wait and see” attitude about gender among the four- and five-year-olds you know.  Can you imagine that?  Let’s take a second and imagine it together:  You meet little Ella, your co-worker’s daughter, at the company family picnic.  Ella is three or four or five years old.  When sweet little Ella is out of earshot, frolicking with the other kids, you quiz her mother:  “So, are you sure she’s a girl? I mean, can you really know that already?” Ella’s mom would think you were insane.

But this is exactly the question people ask me on a regular basis.

A few months ago, I found myself at the county courthouse, waiting for the judge to finalize my divorce, and hanging out with my attorney, a smart and ambitious lad in his early thirties.  I told him about my child, and how she had recently transitioned to a female identity, after months and months of agonizing on my part about whether this was the right path to take.

He then told me that his wife was pregnant.  “It’s a boy!” he said as we walked out of the courthouse.

I hesitated.  Should I say this?

“Or so you think,” I said, giving him a playful nudge on the shoulder.  We both laughed.

But I really hope I made him think.   

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DOWN TO BRASS TACKS?

Published December 7, 2024 by Nan Mykel

HOPEFULLY:  Legal expectations and  consequences for nations  who ignore or do not follow through on climate responsibilities are being currently thrashed out at the International Justice Court in the Hague now.  The hearing is in response to a filing  from the republic of  Vanuatu, an archipelago with 80 islands.  Before its independence in 1980, Vanuatu was jointly administered by France and the U.K.,  and known as the New Hebrides for 74 years. Today Vanuatu is a republic with a non-executive presidency.  <nytdirect@nytimes.com> 

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Romanian Court Annuls Presidential Election Results and Orders a New Vote   The decision came days after the government asserted that there had been “cyberattacks” meant to undermine the vote and security council documents indicated possible Russian meddling.  Imagine that!

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POETRY CORNER
    An Up Poem
Let’s see…balloons go up,
tempers go up,
phalluses go up
And hopes do too.
We get up each day,
sometimes snuggle up,
soprano voices go up
and Subway’s prices too.
Pets lap up good food,
we snap up good deals,
nightmares wake us up
and sweethearts pucker up.
Some sofas fold up.
grads’ caps fly up,
good coffee is drunk up
while UFOs get a look up.
Age of my friends goes up
some stand up to Key’s song;
for some, heaven is up
and drunkards still throw up.
The toilet may stop up,
robbers may hold up.
fish gobble up worms while
good computers back us up.
Surprises sneak up,
sanitary engineers pick up,
earthquakes shake up
and braggarts puff up.
There’s dictionary look ups
and brazen hookups,
too many lock ups and
much too many f-ups
Some poets know not
when to shut up
but wait until they have
cheered up.  Time’s up.
NOW!
(I drowned the DOWN poem)                      Nan

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