He Taught Us Well

Published July 23, 2021 by Nan Mykel

He may not have won the election but he appears to have won the attack on the quality of our humanity. Who will be left to wash our mouths out? What are we teaching our children about assertiveness versus aggression, or the ability to manage our anger and…yes, nastiness? Who can be the cleverest with personal invectives? “Do as I say, not as I do” cannot be asserted any more, because we’re not even endorsing politeness by example.

He has taught us how to fight dirty, and dragged much of our culture down with him, both Republicans and Democrats, and with it fed paranoia. It’s a competition of who can be most degrading. Being empathic does not mean condoning dangerous, destructive, illogical or spiteful behavior. Can we no longer model intelligence without invective? I don’t mean to preach, but Gee Whiz, guys!

Two books I still honor from the past are Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living by Robert Alberti and Michael L. Emmons and When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within by Matthew McKay. Personally I prefer Thriftbooks.com for the goldie oldies.

7 comments on “He Taught Us Well

  • Read a post from Greece, now this one about America and a news article about soccer violence in the UK. May as well have read about South Africa, especially the last week’s events.it doesn’t help though.


  • Nan, the lessons to be learned from various books, some from very well respected sources, if we choose to learn them.

    Beware of folks who claim all criticism is fake news or from sources who just don’t like him. These are a toddler’s response to mom finding her child’s hand in the cookie jar. “Mom, that is fake news.”

    Beware of folks who cannot articulate a point of view without name-calling or labeling something. That is like defining the ingredients from the name on the jar.

    Beware of folks who take credit for all things good, even if their role was small or nonexistent, and blame others for all things bad, even if they had a heavy hand in things. A leadership consultant used that phrase often.

    Beware of folks who need fixers or sycophants to rationalize or make problems go away.

    Beware of folks who bully other people into acquiescence. There is a name of people like that. A bully.

    Beware of people who refuse to be accountable for their actions.

    Those are the lessons of Donald Trump we should remember.

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