From FALLOUT: A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (and Others) by moi:

Many”normal” men can can admire a nubile child but keep a safe distance. They can stay away from the quicksand of losing control. The quicksand is alive and bubbling, and emitting sucking sounds, ready to pull you down. Can you hear it? You don’t have to step in. You don’t have to go under. Isn’t it hell down there? Isn’t prison hell? A “normal” man–or one who is working on becoming normal–will run like the devil in the other direction, to save his hide and his soul. (p. 83)